The subject mentioned thought had always bugged me from a long time. My eldest child is 12years old girl and the youngest is 5 years old boy. May be due to their age difference I have seen both the extremes of eduction system here in Tamilnadu. Our place has always been known for its quality of education and assured placement of students based purely on marks in schools and collages. Our society's financial potential and lifestyle has changed a lot due to the educational uplift of human sectors even in remote villages. Our parents and society is enjoying the benefits of their educated children though they condemn the humiliation of value in the society .An auto rich-saw drivers son is owner of BMW today, due to his eduction accomplishments.
The life style of the public have drastically changed in last 20 years... We cannot decline calling this a progress of our country. I feel that one of the main reason for these development of almost reaching the standards of developed countries like U.S,U.K and Japan are due to our education system.And this education system which have raised us, to what we are now was not a Montessori education system.
Kindly don't judge me wrong with my words above which would have made you feel that I support strict traditional Indian teaching system. My parents had educated me in CBSE school and were very liberal. They were more concern about our manners and behaviors then our education. As my father had transferable job, I have moved to almost 13 school till my 12th standard.I started to take my education seriously only during my 10th standard. I was a very average student and learn at my own phase. I had never had any plans for myself even during my engineering collage days and was a fun loving,go lucky girl compared to my friends who were very studious,dedicated and hardworking.
My husband's brought up was completely opposite to mine. Being born in teachers family and with topper siblings,he had a planned routine of study on daily basis. He has grown to be disciplined,punctual,perfect and go-getter sort of person. I woe almost everything I have as mine today to him as its all due to his dedication and focused attitude ,I feel he have cultivated this attitude due to his brought up from his childhood due to his strict father.
For my eldest daughter, we had sorted Montessori education from the very beginning and before 12 years, it was a new trend in our state. Almost all other relatives of my daughter's age are in southern part of TN, educated in normal schools. Being a working mother, I hardly forced education on my daughter. But today, when I look and compare my relative kids with my daughter , I feel that though she is technically more sound then her cousins, she lacks the sense of hard-work and dedication to her work,lack of sense of competition for improvement with her peers. She has her own will or choices even in participating in extra-curriculum also. She reads lot of story book , plays computer games and excels in computer software. But is this what it should be for her good future? Do I let her live in her own terms? How far does the attitude of "Knowledge is important not the marks in the subject" is going to help? I have come across many parents who have same issues and thoughts due to their kids attitude.
My son is moving to 1st grade next year and he too is in Montessori for his kindergarten. For us ,ours kids education is the one which will decide their future.If I done anything wrong, I would like to correct myself at the earliest at-least for the betterment of my second child.What is the future of our kids likely to be? I don't want my kids to be Doctor or IITan but i am confused about how do need to help them set their goal for their living with the education system which I don't myselfunderstand from last 12 years.
Some say, the present day education system will make our children competent to the world and its recommended in the aspect of globalization. Seeing the rate of crime in school kids in US and UK due to free education system making the saying-"Empty mind make more noise" come true, I fear this might happen to our kids too. Are we really doing good for our kids in the name of modern education? If the education system abroad is so good, why do they hire us Indian for skilled work in their country.
I am in a desperately in search some feedback from great educationalist and analysts to guide a simple mother like me or us-Indian middle class parent who have the responsibility of their children future . I presume, myself to be Yogi performing meditation for enlightenment on education system on our future generation.I wish the right god(in any human form)soon bless us at the right time...
Born to be free and alone
Friday, September 9, 2011
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
2nd and 3rd day of my Swimming lessons.
I am Continuing with my previous blog on my Day One lesson of my swimming class-"Learning a new skill @ 37- First day swimming" @ MJL,Camproad,Chennai 2 days before.
I couldn't write yesterday due to my sickness as my eyes had turned blood red with a very bad irritation due to the pool's chlorine water though I was using swimming goggle from the second day.I left my office early yesterday and slept for almost 10 hrs to recover back to normal for my 3rd day swimming class today.
Now lets see what happened to me and Miss Swathi on Day-2.I was there by 6:00 and started with breathing practice thought on first day for 15 mins. My couch-Miss Swathi was in a very bad mood today.She scolded the other 3 ladies the whole class for not performing to her expectation. I had my quota too...
After breathing exercise,I was asked to float holding my breath with "head position*"(chin touching the chest and hands stretched straight over my head with arms closely inclined to my ears- imagine the snake posture of Barathanatyam dance with both palms[touching each other] facing the front above your head without bending your hands). I pushed the floor of the pool with my feet and immersed in the water holding my breath with the head posture maintained. I reached other end of almost 12 feet breath pool like a floating log.Practiced it couple of times.
I was able to do this perfectly across the 48 feet length stoping in between of the pool for breathing. Swathi guided me to the next practice to lift my face up exhaling the air in my lungs with bubbling in the water and inhaling from the surface above the water and returning back to my old head position holding my breath and floating again.She guided me holding my hand first and i felt comfortable.
Then started nightmare... the nightmare i never expected. When I started practicing on my own, I realized that taking a breath between floating and continuing on after inhaling fresh air above the water was not an easy task.As soon as I raise my head, my body start immersing down and along with inhaling of fresh air, I took water into my breath.. I felt almost breathless and forgot all the hand and leg positions and was beating around the water to stand on my legs.I coughed as the water run into my nose and mouth.I felt very nervous as well as embarrassed for my action in front of others... I literally felt as I have choked myself as I drown literally in 4 feet water. I could relize how it feels to get drowned and dead.
Swathi instructed me to do bubbling in the water to relax.First i felt that a stupid idea..but it was very relaxing to get my breath back to normal. Swathi is a very though trainer and made me do the same floating and inhaling practice again and again.I had my quota of scolding from her in my 2nd day. She has such a commanding tone that honestly wanted to quit for the day but my echo did not let me fail in front of a women much younger then my age.I tried my best to lift my head in between the floating session and take a breath and continue floating.. but miserably failed on every attempt that whole day..
Along with this Swathi thought me leg movement next- Sitting in the edge of the pool rim with leg stretched out to max pointing away towards the pool,Knees joined together and flapping alternatively the foot Just* touching the edge of the water. I was asked not to bend the knee and not to drop the feet below the water.It was an excises to strengthen the leg muscle for swimming.
I was asked get into the water, practice leg movement along with floating movement. I was bending the knees initially and loosing the balance but coped up with Swathi's guidance.With this I ended my second day. I was feeling very tired and exhausted...but I didn't loose my determination. Do or die.. I am learning swimming.
In short,lesson learned on the 2nd day:
a)raising the face from the water to inhale fresh air and dropping back to old head position continue floating.
b) Leg movement: legs stretched straight without bending at the know and flaping the feet while floating.
3RD day: I reached the pool exactly by 6:00 to practice as I was determined not to get those golden words today too from Swathi. Her strict commanding tone on the 2 nd day made me browse and learn a few tips for Breathing techniques for swimmers from the net last night.. Thanks to Google.. Googleaahey namahaa...
Before everyone came, I did breathing exercise and did hoping in the water standing in the neck level water as suggested in one link in net.Jumping up and down like a dolphin was fun. I did not realize when I was inhaling when I was above the water..It was a good suggestion indeed as this is how we need to feel when when we lift our head out for a breath during swimming.
Swathi came almost 15-20 mins late. I did floating with leg movement covering shorter distance. Swathi instructed to cross the pool length wise lifting my head for inhaling in between during my floating position without touching the floor with my legs.Today I did not inhale the water as yesterday though I was not able to complete the pool length without touching the pool bottom during the inhaling process in between.
Swathi guided me into the next lesson of jumping from sitting position in the pool edge with head and hand position. the hand should touch the water first,followed by the chest and last the thighs and feet.Reach the water and float with holding the breath.
Sitting on the edge the my foot heals on the rim of the pool(that runs along the corners of the pool just below the edge of the pool where we hold and stand in the water), Knees apart, hands stretched above my head( hand position- told above-remember arms close to ears), taking neck position ( chin touching the neck)and bending down at my waist with my upper body parallel to the water. I dived into the water.
During my first dive,my body touched the water and I went like a rock to the bottom of the pool.I lifted my face during my fall and I felt the great blow on my nose.I realized a severe pain in my nose joint. Swathi instructed for bubbling and instructed never change the head and hand position when jumping into the water.It was hard lesson learned...till the end of the session I had the nose bone pain that i felt I broke my nose today.
2nd dive was much better then the first one.by 4th dive I was regain my posture and was able to float on the water and move on flopping my foot( no knee bend). I was asked to lift my head and inhale air and progress till I reached the other edge of the pool. This was really tough. I tried my best to take breaths in between the swimming in every dive. I know I was improving to avoid Swathi's advices.. but I need to practice this technique more...I was exhausted and my head started paining severely.. I opted to quit for the day..
Still,now I have come to a shape.. just I need is practice.. I am sure the following days will not be very easy until I learn the breathing techniques and outgrow my fear of drowning during the inhaling process during swimming @ the earliest..
From my childhood I have learned walking,raiding bicycle,scooter and car driving . I am sure, I will learn this life skill too...with practice.
I couldn't write yesterday due to my sickness as my eyes had turned blood red with a very bad irritation due to the pool's chlorine water though I was using swimming goggle from the second day.I left my office early yesterday and slept for almost 10 hrs to recover back to normal for my 3rd day swimming class today.
Now lets see what happened to me and Miss Swathi on Day-2.I was there by 6:00 and started with breathing practice thought on first day for 15 mins. My couch-Miss Swathi was in a very bad mood today.She scolded the other 3 ladies the whole class for not performing to her expectation. I had my quota too...
After breathing exercise,I was asked to float holding my breath with "head position*"(chin touching the chest and hands stretched straight over my head with arms closely inclined to my ears- imagine the snake posture of Barathanatyam dance with both palms[touching each other] facing the front above your head without bending your hands). I pushed the floor of the pool with my feet and immersed in the water holding my breath with the head posture maintained. I reached other end of almost 12 feet breath pool like a floating log.Practiced it couple of times.
I was able to do this perfectly across the 48 feet length stoping in between of the pool for breathing. Swathi guided me to the next practice to lift my face up exhaling the air in my lungs with bubbling in the water and inhaling from the surface above the water and returning back to my old head position holding my breath and floating again.She guided me holding my hand first and i felt comfortable.
Then started nightmare... the nightmare i never expected. When I started practicing on my own, I realized that taking a breath between floating and continuing on after inhaling fresh air above the water was not an easy task.As soon as I raise my head, my body start immersing down and along with inhaling of fresh air, I took water into my breath.. I felt almost breathless and forgot all the hand and leg positions and was beating around the water to stand on my legs.I coughed as the water run into my nose and mouth.I felt very nervous as well as embarrassed for my action in front of others... I literally felt as I have choked myself as I drown literally in 4 feet water. I could relize how it feels to get drowned and dead.
Swathi instructed me to do bubbling in the water to relax.First i felt that a stupid idea..but it was very relaxing to get my breath back to normal. Swathi is a very though trainer and made me do the same floating and inhaling practice again and again.I had my quota of scolding from her in my 2nd day. She has such a commanding tone that honestly wanted to quit for the day but my echo did not let me fail in front of a women much younger then my age.I tried my best to lift my head in between the floating session and take a breath and continue floating.. but miserably failed on every attempt that whole day..
Along with this Swathi thought me leg movement next- Sitting in the edge of the pool rim with leg stretched out to max pointing away towards the pool,Knees joined together and flapping alternatively the foot Just* touching the edge of the water. I was asked not to bend the knee and not to drop the feet below the water.It was an excises to strengthen the leg muscle for swimming.
I was asked get into the water, practice leg movement along with floating movement. I was bending the knees initially and loosing the balance but coped up with Swathi's guidance.With this I ended my second day. I was feeling very tired and exhausted...but I didn't loose my determination. Do or die.. I am learning swimming.
In short,lesson learned on the 2nd day:
a)raising the face from the water to inhale fresh air and dropping back to old head position continue floating.
b) Leg movement: legs stretched straight without bending at the know and flaping the feet while floating.
3RD day: I reached the pool exactly by 6:00 to practice as I was determined not to get those golden words today too from Swathi. Her strict commanding tone on the 2 nd day made me browse and learn a few tips for Breathing techniques for swimmers from the net last night.. Thanks to Google.. Googleaahey namahaa...
Before everyone came, I did breathing exercise and did hoping in the water standing in the neck level water as suggested in one link in net.Jumping up and down like a dolphin was fun. I did not realize when I was inhaling when I was above the water..It was a good suggestion indeed as this is how we need to feel when when we lift our head out for a breath during swimming.
Swathi came almost 15-20 mins late. I did floating with leg movement covering shorter distance. Swathi instructed to cross the pool length wise lifting my head for inhaling in between during my floating position without touching the floor with my legs.Today I did not inhale the water as yesterday though I was not able to complete the pool length without touching the pool bottom during the inhaling process in between.
Swathi guided me into the next lesson of jumping from sitting position in the pool edge with head and hand position. the hand should touch the water first,followed by the chest and last the thighs and feet.Reach the water and float with holding the breath.
Sitting on the edge the my foot heals on the rim of the pool(that runs along the corners of the pool just below the edge of the pool where we hold and stand in the water), Knees apart, hands stretched above my head( hand position- told above-remember arms close to ears), taking neck position ( chin touching the neck)and bending down at my waist with my upper body parallel to the water. I dived into the water.
During my first dive,my body touched the water and I went like a rock to the bottom of the pool.I lifted my face during my fall and I felt the great blow on my nose.I realized a severe pain in my nose joint. Swathi instructed for bubbling and instructed never change the head and hand position when jumping into the water.It was hard lesson learned...till the end of the session I had the nose bone pain that i felt I broke my nose today.
2nd dive was much better then the first one.by 4th dive I was regain my posture and was able to float on the water and move on flopping my foot( no knee bend). I was asked to lift my head and inhale air and progress till I reached the other edge of the pool. This was really tough. I tried my best to take breaths in between the swimming in every dive. I know I was improving to avoid Swathi's advices.. but I need to practice this technique more...I was exhausted and my head started paining severely.. I opted to quit for the day..
Still,now I have come to a shape.. just I need is practice.. I am sure the following days will not be very easy until I learn the breathing techniques and outgrow my fear of drowning during the inhaling process during swimming @ the earliest..
From my childhood I have learned walking,raiding bicycle,scooter and car driving . I am sure, I will learn this life skill too...with practice.
Monday, April 25, 2011
Learning a new skill @ 37- First day swimming
At-last, today was the day of making one of tasks in my wish-list/ thinks to do list before my death came true.
I started my first day of my swimming class @ MJL,Camproad @ Chennai. I purchased my new swimsuit(RS.470) and swim goggle(RS,120) yesterday from vellachery. My mission for learning this new skill was:
1) Reduce 10 KG(I know ,I am too ambitious but at least 5KG with diet) in this 21 days course.
2) Wear a swim suit.(Being Indian women if not now, then when?)
3) For Meditation- Someone told that Swimming is a form of meditation and relaxation.
Being Monday lazy morning, I overslept. I reached the class @ 6:30AM. Finishing the enrollment procedure, I was in the water in my suit by 6:40 with the Couch-Swathi.
Initially, I was disappointed to see her as she( Miss.Swathi- very sweet and sexy) look was contradictory to slim and sleek 50KG- Tajmahal imaginary trainer. Both the institute lady trainers though 23+ remained me of our present dear bubbly(hurting others is bad!) but once tamil movie dream girl Kushbhoo....Seeing them, I instantly knew that I need to work on my diet seriously to achieve my first mission .
Coming back to my first day experience, I showered with the swim suit and got down into the pool with water till my chest. There were other 3 more ladies of which 2 of them had only a couple of days to finish the course. From my present outlook, I really felt that they are doing very good and was imagining myself doing butterfly stokes gracefully much better then them after 20 days. I always had affinity towards water since my childhood and was called "Tavakallai" when I was a little girl so I am very much sure that I will become a good swimmer...
Swathi instructed first to practice deep breathing above the water level. Next I was made to do bubbling practice-Breath in above the water, dip my face inside the water and breath out creating bubbles while lifting my head out.
Third she made me hold the rim of the pool with my stretched arms aligned to my ears,standing with my feet far away from the pool walls and practice holding my breath along with counting with my face inside the water. I was able to make upto 12 counts and as I kept on practicing.. I felt my leg and body rising from the floor automatically when I hold my breath...
I felt like a log of wood in the water while floating. Surprise... I am floating in the water with my 72 KG body weight...Such a beautiful experience...I was feeling very proud of my self. I had a sense of fulfillment.. I could hardly concentrate on anything else other then my body, my breath and water... I have never thought of experiencing something like this that too in water in my life.Awesome...
Swathi next instructed to hold her finger instead of the rim of the pool and do the previous excer.She dragged me along while I floated.After a couple of hand aided practice she thought me to do it myself... and I practiced floating around...
I floated around like an alligator,just flat on my stomach holding my breath.. Still could not believe.. I am doing it...I could feel how the fish could feel ,who birds would feel while flying.. zoom and zoom and zoom...
Only difference.. they are fast and I am slow...still dazing though the water is really exciting...
So this was my first day...Coming back home after an hour I could feel body ache and could not help feeling drowsy as if I hadn't had a good sound sleep @ night...If I hadn't had office today.. I would had a sound sleep @ home.
Waiting for tomorrow is the driving force today in the office...
I started my first day of my swimming class @ MJL,Camproad @ Chennai. I purchased my new swimsuit(RS.470) and swim goggle(RS,120) yesterday from vellachery. My mission for learning this new skill was:
1) Reduce 10 KG(I know ,I am too ambitious but at least 5KG with diet) in this 21 days course.
2) Wear a swim suit.(Being Indian women if not now, then when?)
3) For Meditation- Someone told that Swimming is a form of meditation and relaxation.
Being Monday lazy morning, I overslept. I reached the class @ 6:30AM. Finishing the enrollment procedure, I was in the water in my suit by 6:40 with the Couch-Swathi.
Initially, I was disappointed to see her as she( Miss.Swathi- very sweet and sexy) look was contradictory to slim and sleek 50KG- Tajmahal imaginary trainer. Both the institute lady trainers though 23+ remained me of our present dear bubbly(hurting others is bad!) but once tamil movie dream girl Kushbhoo....Seeing them, I instantly knew that I need to work on my diet seriously to achieve my first mission .
Coming back to my first day experience, I showered with the swim suit and got down into the pool with water till my chest. There were other 3 more ladies of which 2 of them had only a couple of days to finish the course. From my present outlook, I really felt that they are doing very good and was imagining myself doing butterfly stokes gracefully much better then them after 20 days. I always had affinity towards water since my childhood and was called "Tavakallai" when I was a little girl so I am very much sure that I will become a good swimmer...
Swathi instructed first to practice deep breathing above the water level. Next I was made to do bubbling practice-Breath in above the water, dip my face inside the water and breath out creating bubbles while lifting my head out.
Third she made me hold the rim of the pool with my stretched arms aligned to my ears,standing with my feet far away from the pool walls and practice holding my breath along with counting with my face inside the water. I was able to make upto 12 counts and as I kept on practicing.. I felt my leg and body rising from the floor automatically when I hold my breath...
I felt like a log of wood in the water while floating. Surprise... I am floating in the water with my 72 KG body weight...Such a beautiful experience...I was feeling very proud of my self. I had a sense of fulfillment.. I could hardly concentrate on anything else other then my body, my breath and water... I have never thought of experiencing something like this that too in water in my life.Awesome...
Swathi next instructed to hold her finger instead of the rim of the pool and do the previous excer.She dragged me along while I floated.After a couple of hand aided practice she thought me to do it myself... and I practiced floating around...
I floated around like an alligator,just flat on my stomach holding my breath.. Still could not believe.. I am doing it...I could feel how the fish could feel ,who birds would feel while flying.. zoom and zoom and zoom...
Only difference.. they are fast and I am slow...still dazing though the water is really exciting...
So this was my first day...Coming back home after an hour I could feel body ache and could not help feeling drowsy as if I hadn't had a good sound sleep @ night...If I hadn't had office today.. I would had a sound sleep @ home.
Waiting for tomorrow is the driving force today in the office...
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Wondering about the our educated people's thought.
One of my close family relative let me call him as here-"Viral infection" as he is popular for contaminating his surrounding with his negative thoughts and gestures.Though being a retired teacher ,he is man of small thoughts.
Recently, we had been to our native place for a family deities function and stayed @ our ancestral home which is of almost 100 years old. Our Mr. Viral Infection too was there with us being the senior member of our family.Presently,this house is occupied and maintained by his eldest brother's daughter and family, who are undergoing some miserable life challenges of their life .
During our stay there,we could very well feel the plight of that family. We stayed of 2 Days and enjoyed the temple function with all our close and distant relatives in the surrounding.Mr.Viral got all the attention for his seniority and financial well being.
When it was time for us to return back ,we had an idea to give around Rs.1000 to the lady of that house as a token of help .But Mr.Viral Infection apposed this stating that if we help her freely with cash now, she will come and demand more when they need real help in their life. To honor his words,my husband did not give any money to lady who happens to be one of his cousin sister.
Recently I heard that Mr.Viral Infection is paying almost Rs.10,000 for the welfare of the temple organization in that village.
God! I cannot believe where this world is going... He being a teacher and a senior member of the family, does not have a heart of leading a small amount to his blood,his own elder brother's daughter while he is ready to spend on the unknown god and relatives.
I think ,the world is suffering not because of the God but because of great human like Mr. Viral Infection whose main intention is to save money and spend where they get popularity.
God has given the best to some people so that he share it with other and do welfare to people around him. If people like Mr. Viral Infection who being a most religious personality's action is followed by his followers.. then there will be no value for God or his followers in future...
I fear ,the worst humanitarian values in our society in future due to these kind of educated folks.I have seen one here and God alone knows how many such people are there in this world.
God bless this country and people.
Recently, we had been to our native place for a family deities function and stayed @ our ancestral home which is of almost 100 years old. Our Mr. Viral Infection too was there with us being the senior member of our family.Presently,this house is occupied and maintained by his eldest brother's daughter and family, who are undergoing some miserable life challenges of their life .
During our stay there,we could very well feel the plight of that family. We stayed of 2 Days and enjoyed the temple function with all our close and distant relatives in the surrounding.Mr.Viral got all the attention for his seniority and financial well being.
When it was time for us to return back ,we had an idea to give around Rs.1000 to the lady of that house as a token of help .But Mr.Viral Infection apposed this stating that if we help her freely with cash now, she will come and demand more when they need real help in their life. To honor his words,my husband did not give any money to lady who happens to be one of his cousin sister.
Recently I heard that Mr.Viral Infection is paying almost Rs.10,000 for the welfare of the temple organization in that village.
God! I cannot believe where this world is going... He being a teacher and a senior member of the family, does not have a heart of leading a small amount to his blood,his own elder brother's daughter while he is ready to spend on the unknown god and relatives.
I think ,the world is suffering not because of the God but because of great human like Mr. Viral Infection whose main intention is to save money and spend where they get popularity.
God has given the best to some people so that he share it with other and do welfare to people around him. If people like Mr. Viral Infection who being a most religious personality's action is followed by his followers.. then there will be no value for God or his followers in future...
I fear ,the worst humanitarian values in our society in future due to these kind of educated folks.I have seen one here and God alone knows how many such people are there in this world.
God bless this country and people.
Thursday, February 10, 2011
Kali yuga way of worshiping God- Thought for 6 sensed living being.
I recently came across a blog written by Sunitha Krishnan,liked it and
I would like to share it with you all .Kindly give a thought to this
if possible. Also check her courageous speech of her's which mae
the audiencee speechless for almost 5-10 mins in the conference.
( Watch:http://www.ted.com/talks/sunitha_krishnan_tedindia.html.
I too, feel that we should do something to the society and the needy people instead of pleasing the God. Lord Perumal(of Tirupathi) if had been born again would have asked us to do the needful to the suffering folks on this earth instead of spending millions of Rupees on his temples welfare. We are gifted with 6th sense by God and he would definitely not expect us to act as a horse with blinders following what our ancestors were doing without understanding the meaning and consequences.
OF HUNDI DONATIONS & VOLUNTARY WORK!!!
Last week I was talking to a friend on how we Indians are more
comfortable donating to temples than to real issues and causes. Every
time we go around "begging" for financial support we have to answer a
million questions regarding whether it will reach the beneficiary or
not...how it will be spent...can they actually see the results? All
questions justified and I personally feel we are accountable and
responsible for every pie we collect and we should jolly well make
sure that it benefits the right person.
But what bugs me is the fact that the same persons will close their
eyes(practically) and donate huge amounts of money ( sometime
billions) in a temple or a church or a mosque's 'hundi'( the money
collection box). Do they ever ask whether God will receive it or not
(it is meant to be given to him/her right)? Why would somebody who is
already owning the world...creating it...protecting it and is supposed
to be showering prosperity to everybody need any further donation. In
fact he/she is supposed to be so wealthy that he/she can look after
billions living on the earth.
Why do we think a million times over to support or help a fellow human
being...analyzing how deserving...how much tax exemption...and most
importantly should I at all? And all those analyses just vanishes into
thin air if Gods & Goddess come into picture.
Lets keep monetary contributions aside. Lets look at voluntary work.
Why don't we allow our 10 or 12 yr old child to do voluntary work for
a cause...(but all of ensure our children our God fearing and drag
them to all temples...mosques...churches)
Why is it that in most Indian civil society organizations we find more
foreign volunteers(sometimes even NRI's) but hardly any Indians living
in India? In fact in my own organization I get at least 150 requests a
month to work as volunteers out which 145 will be foreigners and
hardly 5 Indians.
Today in the old city of Hyderabad everybody is celebrating
"Bonalu"...a festival of the Mother Goddess...
I see millions of rupees being spent for pujas(prayers in
temples)...to take huge processions on the oad...the band...the
music...the fireworks...the fanfare.
I also see the hungry & starving children...the illiterate
population...the community living below poverty line...the shack holes
in unhygienic slums...the pathetic potholes on the roads...the pain of
broken souls...COULDN'T THEY SPEND THE MILLIONS HERE?
COULDN'T WE GIVE OURSELVES TO CHANGE THE SITUATION IN THE EARTH THAT
WE LIVE TODAY...BEFORE WE JOIN THE GODS IN HEAVEN!
I would like to share it with you all .Kindly give a thought to this
if possible. Also check her courageous speech of her's which mae
the audiencee speechless for almost 5-10 mins in the conference.
( Watch:http://www.ted.com/talks/sunitha_krishnan_tedindia.html.
I too, feel that we should do something to the society and the needy people instead of pleasing the God. Lord Perumal(of Tirupathi) if had been born again would have asked us to do the needful to the suffering folks on this earth instead of spending millions of Rupees on his temples welfare. We are gifted with 6th sense by God and he would definitely not expect us to act as a horse with blinders following what our ancestors were doing without understanding the meaning and consequences.
OF HUNDI DONATIONS & VOLUNTARY WORK!!!
Last week I was talking to a friend on how we Indians are more
comfortable donating to temples than to real issues and causes. Every
time we go around "begging" for financial support we have to answer a
million questions regarding whether it will reach the beneficiary or
not...how it will be spent...can they actually see the results? All
questions justified and I personally feel we are accountable and
responsible for every pie we collect and we should jolly well make
sure that it benefits the right person.
But what bugs me is the fact that the same persons will close their
eyes(practically) and donate huge amounts of money ( sometime
billions) in a temple or a church or a mosque's 'hundi'( the money
collection box). Do they ever ask whether God will receive it or not
(it is meant to be given to him/her right)? Why would somebody who is
already owning the world...creating it...protecting it and is supposed
to be showering prosperity to everybody need any further donation. In
fact he/she is supposed to be so wealthy that he/she can look after
billions living on the earth.
Why do we think a million times over to support or help a fellow human
being...analyzing how deserving...how much tax exemption...and most
importantly should I at all? And all those analyses just vanishes into
thin air if Gods & Goddess come into picture.
Lets keep monetary contributions aside. Lets look at voluntary work.
Why don't we allow our 10 or 12 yr old child to do voluntary work for
a cause...(but all of ensure our children our God fearing and drag
them to all temples...mosques...churches)
Why is it that in most Indian civil society organizations we find more
foreign volunteers(sometimes even NRI's) but hardly any Indians living
in India? In fact in my own organization I get at least 150 requests a
month to work as volunteers out which 145 will be foreigners and
hardly 5 Indians.
Today in the old city of Hyderabad everybody is celebrating
"Bonalu"...a festival of the Mother Goddess...
I see millions of rupees being spent for pujas(prayers in
temples)...to take huge processions on the oad...the band...the
music...the fireworks...the fanfare.
I also see the hungry & starving children...the illiterate
population...the community living below poverty line...the shack holes
in unhygienic slums...the pathetic potholes on the roads...the pain of
broken souls...COULDN'T THEY SPEND THE MILLIONS HERE?
COULDN'T WE GIVE OURSELVES TO CHANGE THE SITUATION IN THE EARTH THAT
WE LIVE TODAY...BEFORE WE JOIN THE GODS IN HEAVEN!
Thursday, November 25, 2010
Look!!who is talking about the skin colour??-my little Kanna
Last Saturday, we were returning back home from KFC in our car, I and my husband we were discussing about Endiran song lyrics(OM is real crazy about the movie and the songs)while my kids were enjoying this movie song being played in FM radio. Suddenly OM shot up saying -"Chitti Robatoo(CHITTI Robot) nanako(yenako) romba pidikum." I casually asked him "why does he like him of all other Robo?"[OM has differentiated the Robo of that movie as 1) Chitti Robo 2)Kuppathothi(Garbage)Robo and 3) Bad Robo(Villan Robo)]
Guess what he told!!
Instantly, he replied - "Chitti Robo romba nalla colour....Annaku(yenaku)romba pidikum...nanu(me) karuppu(with a sad expression)."
I did not expect this and it took me few second to recover from this shock.I asked him back.. "who told karuppu(black) is bad? God Krishna is black and everyone loves him. I too love you because you have krishna's colour."
He pulled my hand forcefully and held his hand out and alike Sivaji movie he asked comparing"Parru Neenu colour.. Nannu karuppu." His voice was really serious.I could not respond immediately for this gesture of his immediatly.
I took a few second to reconcile myself.Though ,I tried my best to convince him that he is the best, he did not seem to change his mind.
I am surprised that a 4 years old talks about skin color. Although i liked his smart answers and quick wits, I don't know how this staff get into a child's mind. I never thought a boy of his age will care about his looks at this age.Will this feeling turn into a complex as he grows up?
Dark skin is part of our south Indian men.Do they feel inferior? My little boy made me think about something I have never thought before in my whole life...
Guess what he told!!
Instantly, he replied - "Chitti Robo romba nalla colour....Annaku(yenaku)romba pidikum...nanu(me) karuppu(with a sad expression)."
I did not expect this and it took me few second to recover from this shock.I asked him back.. "who told karuppu(black) is bad? God Krishna is black and everyone loves him. I too love you because you have krishna's colour."
He pulled my hand forcefully and held his hand out and alike Sivaji movie he asked comparing"Parru Neenu colour.. Nannu karuppu." His voice was really serious.I could not respond immediately for this gesture of his immediatly.
I took a few second to reconcile myself.Though ,I tried my best to convince him that he is the best, he did not seem to change his mind.
I am surprised that a 4 years old talks about skin color. Although i liked his smart answers and quick wits, I don't know how this staff get into a child's mind. I never thought a boy of his age will care about his looks at this age.Will this feeling turn into a complex as he grows up?
Dark skin is part of our south Indian men.Do they feel inferior? My little boy made me think about something I have never thought before in my whole life...
Saturday, October 30, 2010
Who makes Women? - revised
What is a women? A living being or a maid to a man. Was she made to be always a shadow of a man. Is she only valued for her reproducing organ? Is to make babes and rear them is the ultimate goal of a women life?
What is the purpose of eduction to her? She is rather a literate then educated. Literate to earn her living in the time of need for the family and herself,literate to educate her children and understand the requirement of the family. She is given literacy to understand her men's language rather to feel it herself.
Is she born to be like robot needs to know all without any meaning of existence for herself?
Men doesn't like women who question,reasons and has her own opinion. What is this life of a women when she has to time to time prove her existence by doing always pleasing others wishes without disclosing her feelings. Is this nature of her's appreciated as patience , tolerance and sacrifices? There are so many literature singing the praise of women for all this. Have anyone bothered to realized how was their real feeling?
No one gives examples about Men here... was there no ideal men in this world. Few women is considered to be someone only when she is counting her last days by their children.More over the Man in their old age appreciate their wife immensely for their sacrifices and the dedication in nursing them inspite of their fowls during their youth. Its like pampering a pet animal after being abusive to it. What is the use of it when the creamy part of women life is no more and there is no one to show her worth to?
If women had been educated, they would have stood against dowry system, they would have dared to speak back to their to in-laws when they speak ill of her own parents. If she would have been educated,she would have known her right to defend herself and keep up her self-esteem. She would have lived a life happily in her own terms. She will have preference in having children and wish of its gender. No news of women abandoning the female child would have hit the news.
The women exist today is all made up by the society for its pleasure and literally made as a Robot use and throw away as needed. No doubt, Arab criticizes of Indian men of treating their wife like dogs when we curse them for making the women wear black gown to cover themselves.
I was very optimistic when I was young,preaching that people are as we are to them. But with this years ,I honestly feel that this is true of men not for women. Women is always taken as granted all around. People rule on me and force their thought with emotional blackmails.
Do I really need to exist like this?I don't have the guts to come out of this and face the cruel society now. I am sure,this feeling would have been with other women of our history from Sita to today's Pratiba Patil. I too have to wait for my turn to be appreciate and considered by my children and grand children. My fate is written by my husband and his family needs. Talking,sitting,walking,eating even the smell of my body depends on the approval or disapproval of them. Is this all what a women wants and lives for ?
Men will never come out of their insecure feeling and Women will soon become endangered species if the society is going to be like this. No women will like her daughters to suffer like her in future and with the upcoming technology will predict the gender of the baby within a month and abort it.
Imagine the day , when Goddesss Laxmi will taken over by Lord Laxman. Money will be the only life of men in future. Women will be replaced by Robot.
Updating this again, as now after reading a Sudha Murthys book: Wise and other wise. She has highlighted the same subject of woman's plight in India. She has stated that its all because We are educated without learning the value of self respect and improving our self-confidence as a woman. I feel its true,we see our mothers and grandmother being submissive always and learn to be so.
I feel, it will take generations to change the men and women to give a change of thought of living without a man in woman's life.Until a women,mother,sister,daughter... decide to free themself from the clutches of so called culture/tradition and have confidence in oneself, we are going to be like this only.
What is the purpose of eduction to her? She is rather a literate then educated. Literate to earn her living in the time of need for the family and herself,literate to educate her children and understand the requirement of the family. She is given literacy to understand her men's language rather to feel it herself.
Is she born to be like robot needs to know all without any meaning of existence for herself?
Men doesn't like women who question,reasons and has her own opinion. What is this life of a women when she has to time to time prove her existence by doing always pleasing others wishes without disclosing her feelings. Is this nature of her's appreciated as patience , tolerance and sacrifices? There are so many literature singing the praise of women for all this. Have anyone bothered to realized how was their real feeling?
No one gives examples about Men here... was there no ideal men in this world. Few women is considered to be someone only when she is counting her last days by their children.More over the Man in their old age appreciate their wife immensely for their sacrifices and the dedication in nursing them inspite of their fowls during their youth. Its like pampering a pet animal after being abusive to it. What is the use of it when the creamy part of women life is no more and there is no one to show her worth to?
If women had been educated, they would have stood against dowry system, they would have dared to speak back to their to in-laws when they speak ill of her own parents. If she would have been educated,she would have known her right to defend herself and keep up her self-esteem. She would have lived a life happily in her own terms. She will have preference in having children and wish of its gender. No news of women abandoning the female child would have hit the news.
The women exist today is all made up by the society for its pleasure and literally made as a Robot use and throw away as needed. No doubt, Arab criticizes of Indian men of treating their wife like dogs when we curse them for making the women wear black gown to cover themselves.
I was very optimistic when I was young,preaching that people are as we are to them. But with this years ,I honestly feel that this is true of men not for women. Women is always taken as granted all around. People rule on me and force their thought with emotional blackmails.
Do I really need to exist like this?I don't have the guts to come out of this and face the cruel society now. I am sure,this feeling would have been with other women of our history from Sita to today's Pratiba Patil. I too have to wait for my turn to be appreciate and considered by my children and grand children. My fate is written by my husband and his family needs. Talking,sitting,walking,eating even the smell of my body depends on the approval or disapproval of them. Is this all what a women wants and lives for ?
Men will never come out of their insecure feeling and Women will soon become endangered species if the society is going to be like this. No women will like her daughters to suffer like her in future and with the upcoming technology will predict the gender of the baby within a month and abort it.
Imagine the day , when Goddesss Laxmi will taken over by Lord Laxman. Money will be the only life of men in future. Women will be replaced by Robot.
Updating this again, as now after reading a Sudha Murthys book: Wise and other wise. She has highlighted the same subject of woman's plight in India. She has stated that its all because We are educated without learning the value of self respect and improving our self-confidence as a woman. I feel its true,we see our mothers and grandmother being submissive always and learn to be so.
I feel, it will take generations to change the men and women to give a change of thought of living without a man in woman's life.Until a women,mother,sister,daughter... decide to free themself from the clutches of so called culture/tradition and have confidence in oneself, we are going to be like this only.
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